By Diana Bocco
How to Answer Email for a Dating Website
By Diana Bocco
OverviewSigning up for a dating website is just the first step in the process of meeting somebody new. The true test of whether this method is going to work for you comes once you check your inbox and realize someone has contacted you. Answering that initial email contact is crucial for a good start toward a possible real-life date.Step 1Read the person’s profile before you respond, so you can write a more personalized response. Find something you like or have in common or something that you would like to know more about. Mention it in the email. This will show that you took the time to learn about the person behind the message, making you appear more interested.Step 2Follow the tone of the message you received. If the email was short, don’t respond with your life story. Instead, send a quick “Hi” to acknowledge the message and ask the person a question or two to initiate a dialogue. If the message contains questions, answer them and then ask a few of your own.Step 3Be safe; don’t give out any personal or identifying information. This includes obvious things like your address or last name, but also details that can identify where you live or work, such as mentioning a popular restaurant and then adding that is in the building next to your house.Step 4Make yourself sound interesting without stretching the truth. Don’t say all you do is work or watch TV. Think about the things you love to do, whether they’re just interests that you dream of pursuing or things that you already do in your free time. Mention whether you’re active, whether you prefer movies or books, if you have pets. The things you talk about don’t have to be unusual or exceptional, since the goal is to show that you’re a real person with real interests.Step 5Keep your tone neutral. You don’t want to sound business-like, but neither do you want to appear immature or desperate. Check your grammar and spelling and avoid “text talk,” like using “CU” in place of “see you.” While such informal talk is fine among friends, your first email back should be more polished.skill2tipDon’t wait too long to answer the email or you may lose the opportunity for a connection. Chances are the person who sent the message has also contacted other people, or will if your answer doesn’t come through.
Don’t feign interest. If you look at the person’s profile and don’t feel attraction or that you have common interests, ignore the message or send a quick “thanks but no thanks” email back.tipsDon’t wait too long to answer the email or you may lose the opportunity for a connection. Chances are the person who sent the message has also contacted other people, or will if your answer doesn’t come through.tipsDon’t feign interest. If you look at the person’s profile and don’t feel attraction or that you have common interests, ignore the message or send a quick “thanks but no thanks” email back.keywordemail e-mail answer online datingkeywordsemailkeywordse-mailkeywordsanswerkeywordsonlinekeywordsdatingResourcesreferenceDating email etiquettereference6 Don’ts of Online Dating
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